How does divorce affect the sincerity of marriage vows?

Recently I asked how same sex marriages destroyed the institution of marriage and 1 answer pointed out that divorce is more damaging to the validity of marriage than same sex marriage. Do you agree that divorces are easy to get and that marriage does not mean a union for life. That then invalidates the oath you take to your partner and God.|||good question. divorce and marriage seem to go hand-in-hand, just like the instant gratification society we live in. in india, you say you love a girl/boy, it's expected you marry her/him. a taboo is placed upon divorce there more than in many other countries. but look at places like islamic countries where a woman is totally subservient to her family/husband and can be honor killed if she actually has a mind of her own and marries a man she actually loves for reasons beyond religion. divorce is not wrong, it is necessary because humans are fallible. same sex marriages are not wrong just because you and i happen to be "straight" we make it all wrong based upon what we have learned as children and brought into our own worlds. we humans judge and criticize and act like we know what is right and wrong as if we are our own gods. why can't people just live and let live?|||I don't know. It's a good question. I grew up in a household where I had two examples of bad marriages. One went through a divorce, the other couple just slept in different rooms. But, then, there are couples that have never been married and are happy than most married couples that I know.

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|||I do agree that our modern no-fault divorce laws have led to a very high rate of divorce, because it has made divorce relatively cheap and easy to obtain. Cheaper and easier than making a marriage work, for example.





Ironically, though, I see the modern attitude about divorce as coming from the same place as the modern notion about same sex marriage. Ultimately, the women's liberation movement.





Now, I am not opposed to some of the things society obtained with the women's liberation movement (or no-fault divorce), but I also recognize it has led to the deterioration of marriage on every front.





I think the big victims in all of this will be women and children, too.|||Some people enter marriage with the idea that if it doesn't work, then they can always get out of it. Never mind the disruption that such arrangements have on society and any children who are born into such a relationship.





While divorces are certainly too easy, I don't believe that is as damaging to the validity of marriage as the attitude that some people bring into it.





But, keep in mind, that marriage is not necessarily a religious ceremony. Many marriages are civil and have no connection or understanding of any religious significance behind the joining of two people together in love and honor.|||You are at liberty to examine the other party, you may not marry at all, but once married, you must keep this marriage intact and should not divorce. You should accet the life partner as permanent and try to become one with him or her or you may adjust and this adjustment may continue till last day, but no divorce because your children suffer and you also are branded as a bad person and a second had commodity having half or less than half value in society.|||Frankly speaking, the word "Divorce" does not exist in the institution of marriage. If it was, then the question of vowing would not arise. Divorce means seperation from your vows due to reasons of non-rhyming of views or acts. The institution of marriage requires the partners to thrash out any differences and sort out the knots; - and not to run away from problems.|||Marriage is the most stupid institution that is possible. All kind of mental sickness is born out of marriage. The love between man and woman is not permenant. Marriage looks beautiful only from outside. You enter into it and immediately you start feeling that how to get rid of your partner. Marriage is a business arrangement. All kind of abuse and neglect is born out of this arrangement. You leagally bind somebody to you. What kind of slavery is this.


In marriage you have to fulfill roles and you become just a machine. It put a big burden on the individual also to run a family. The whole burdon is on you and you are fighting against everybody to take your life forward.


The divorce is a certainity. Others who are not divorced is also not living a wonderful life. They are just dragging.|||Malachi 2





13 Another thing you do: You flood the LORD's altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer pays attention to your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, "Why?" It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.





15 Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. [e] So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.





16 "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, "and I hate a man's covering himself [f] with violence as well as with his garment," says the LORD Almighty.


So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.|||God takes a vow and a pledge and a covenant very serious. the bible is full of statements about vows and promises. A person cannot be trusted if he brakes a vow or promise. It is better not to make a vow or promise than to make one and break it. Ecclesiastes 5:4.


Proverbs 20:25 It is a snare for a man to devote rashly (something as holy) and afterward to reconsider his vows. |||Jesus said the only acceptable reason for divorce is adultery. But even in that case, God would generally have us forgive and stay married. There will always be temptations to do evil, but it is up to each person to do the right and honorable thing in the site of God. Marriage is only between a man and a woman in the site of God. God does not honor a union of the same sex, but plainly states it is evil (chapter 1 of Romans) and against His creation.|||Depends on your oath, I guess. Not all use a god as a basis... same sex is just two people who feel they belong togeather, how is that different?