Tuesday, September 27, 2011

How to get a divorce without going through the court?

My husband and I have been together for 3 years, but have only been married for 7 months. We have come to the mutual decision to get a divorce. We have no money to split, and we have openly agreed to have joint custody of our son. We have no idea how to go about getting this taken care of, and we really don't want to have to go to court to get it done. Is there any way that we can just go to fill out a simple form and get divorced without any kind of hassle with court?|||Actually there is.





You can hire lawyers to draw up and handle all of the paperwork for you two. You and your husband sign it and give the lawyer any pertinent information (they will need at least income information for child support). Then the lawyers show up in court to represent each of you and if the judge approves all of the paperwork, everything will be signed by the court.





Of course it's MUCH cheaper if one of you petitions, both of you fill out the paperwork, the petitioner has the other party served and they sign and return the forms. I think that only requires one final court appearance.|||im sorry to tell you u will still have to go to a hearing for the divorce|||No. Marriage is a civil contract. The only way to cancel it is through the court.|||Legally married = law


Law = court|||You're divorced when the judge signs the papers. The judge won't sign the papers until you go to court. It's not possible to get divorced without going to court.

How much is a cheap do-it-yourself divorce in Riverside County, California?

My friend and spouse have decided to get a divorce. They will be doing it themselves as there is no disagreement about how to divide the property and no children. Does anyone know approximately how much this will cost them?|||I got a divorce in Riverside County, but when I did it in September 2005, I only paid about 300 dollars total. Only because I was filing an annulment type divorce, no property or children werre involved. Prices to file a divorce in the Riverside County Family Law courts are always rising. By now, I'm guessing you might have to pay between 400 and 600 dollars. It depends on what your friend and spouse decide to file.





Go to the Riverside County Family Law court website:


http://www.riverside.courts.ca.gov/famil鈥?/a>





Click on "Forms/Fees"


Click on "Fee Schedule"





This will give you exact and current amounts of what it takes to file on your own, without any lawyers. The fee schedule has a fee pricing for each piece of paperwork you decide to file, like with property and with children.





If they have questions or need help, its always best to go down to the court house and ask someone for help. At the court house they even have a do-it-yourself center. It costs money to print pages and it also costs money to park at the court house.


(The address: 4175 Main Street, off Market and 12th)





I hope I was able to help you out. Best wishes.|||9,999,000. just a ballpark figure.|||well it can be free.... if you do it the right way =]|||They can probably hire a Mediator to help out with the property settlement for $100 per hour. If they are in agreement then it should take less than 2 - 4 hours to draw up the decree and file it.|||its $186 in Texas for no fault divorce call the court house and ask them|||Talk to the clerk of your local family court. They should be able to guide you in which documents to file, and whether you have to hire a lawyer.


I advised a friend and his spouse in Las Vegas. We found a legal secretary in the classifieds who drew up the papers, and two weeks later, they were divorced. They even didn't know until a day or two later!

How do I start to file for a divorce in Texas? I don't know where to start?

I need to file for a divorce, I have been putting it off. We have kids however we have already been through the attorney general to settle that issue. I need to know what steps I need to take. Im low on funds and heard that you can download forms on line and do it that way. Is that true I don't want to do anything wrong any my ex and I are at an agreement to get this done.|||Go to legalzoom.com


I'm pretty sure that is the site I went to for my divorce. It was a reasonable price, and REALLY easy.


Especially if you're both in agreement, it will ask you all the questions and will mail you all the documents you need to serve him with the divorce, and tells you what steps you need to make with the court and everything.


I had no idea what I was doing either, and it made it really easy for me.|||I got my divorce in Texas.





You can go to the public library and they have books that tell you how, and in the book there is a CD with the papers on it, and you just print them from the CD. Or they're right there in the book itsself and you photo copy them out of the book.





You can file them at the courthouse.


Call before-hand to ask what part of the courthouse to take your papers to.





My ex and I agreed on the terms of the divorce, so he filed the papers in May and the divorce was final in August.|||Well that is great that you both have already settled everything, it sure makes it easier.


You can use a document prep site, they'll prepare the forms for you then you'll file and serve them. Pretty simple and low cost.


Here's a link to your state laws, it may help you:


http://document-do-it-yourself-service.c鈥?/a>|||Hire one lawyer and split the cost. Negoiate his/her fees on your limited funds. The lawyer will officially represent one of you, but if you are in agreement, the job is easy. You have lots of tough questions ahead of you, be diligent.|||If nothing is contested, hire 1 attorney, for the both of you, and split the cost. You can get your divorce for cheap bigtime if its not contested. talk to you husband. see if he agrees.|||Go to this website http://www.divorcesource.com/webcartd/do鈥?/a>


Also there are lots of how to books that you can get at your local library.


Good Luck


Red|||go to your local courthouse and get copies of the forms. They will probably have instructions as well.|||get a lawyer|||court|||court|||legalzoom.com ?

What difference does it make if she files for divorce?

We have been married for almost three years. We have hard time and we just want to get divorced.


I am students. So is she. She insists that I should go and get "Islamic Divorce" first because we are Muslims. Then, she will go to the court and file for divorce.


If I divorce or she divorces, what different does it make? Does it have something to do with alimony even though we do not have children?|||It makes no difference who files.|||I think she wants to make sure you're serious. She wants to see if you're really ready to throw in the towel. Part of her might be hoping that you're not done with her.|||It makes no difference.

What do parents usually fight about before they get a divorce?

I'm afraid my parents might get a divorce because they've been fighting a lot lately, and I want to know some things that cause parents to argue over and finally get a divorce.|||They can fight over a lot of things; cleaning, bossing around, never working. Mine almost got a divorce because my dads ex wife almost stole him back. There can be a alot of things that cause divorces, DONT WORRY!|||Finances.|||You're apparently looking for emotional support and guidance, because you feel that your parents might divorce. I suggest you go to meeting of Divorce Care or DC4K (Divorce Care for Kids). DC4K is for kids under 13 years old. Divorce Care is for people 13 and older.





Go to /www.divorcecare.org/. Scroll down, and enter your zip code or postal code. You'll see a list of locations near your house. You'll meet people who have been through the stress that you're going through now, and they can provide emotional support and provide tips for coping which they've learned.





My heart goes out to you. Just remember that if they divorce, they are divorcing each other; they are not divorcing you. They both still love you.|||anything really, most likely the littlest thing can set off an argument, talk to a school counselor or trusted person (friend, teacher, etc.) Stay neutral in all their arguments, take care!

My divorce is already filed, is it to late to add a revised financial statement?

My divorce is already filed, we're awaiting our court date one month away, is it possible to send in a revised financial statement?|||Parent eSource has an excellent articles related to your question. try to read them: http://parentesource.com/2011/04/12/guid鈥?/a>|||its not too late until its finalized but you do need to hurry|||no the sooner the better

What are the steps to filing for divorce if i do it myself?

My husband left me over a year ago we were going to move to a different city....turned out i had to have surgery the day before we planned to leave. So i stayed behind to recover a week later he texts me not to go. He left me with nothing took everything i had ruined my credit. A month later i find out he is living with a girl an she is pregnate and he is the dad...Im not fighting for anything just want the divorce.|||Be very careful you could wind leaving your self open for some back lash from the your husband. Don't let him off scott free he did you wrong make him pay|||Just go to the county court house, get the forms, pay the fee, file them, and wait. Not really hard.|||Okay, I understand your agony but divorce has to be properly planned and managed so that you don't lose out some basic rights that you suppose to have. I know that it's not important to you and you don't want to care much about it.. but if you are not the fault of the divorce, why let yourself deprive of this basic human rights that you should have? .





Here's a site http://tinyurl.com/ye2exop that can you help understand more on the needs to file a divorce the proper way. You can get an overview of the process here http://www.ehow.com/how_2063406_file-div鈥?/a>





Try to talk over it to your closest friends and family members as that will help to ease your emotional pains. I'm sure they will support and help you. Be strong!

How long after a legal adoption does a separation, then divorce seem as intent?

If a man adopts his current spouse's children to play the acting role as the father and then 19 months to the day, she declares she wishes to have a divorce, thus forcing this man to pay Child Support on 2 kids that the previous father did not pay for. Separation ensues and a few months later divorce. Can this be understood by the courts as intent or anything along those lines?|||This is very common, but there is no case law to refer to in an effort to overturn the adoption. That is not to say it cannot be attempted. He could try for custody.


http://dads-house.org/EducationalManual|||I don't know how long but if the man adopted the womans child the man would then have the same rights as a biological parent would meaning you would have to pay child support, can fight for sole custody or joint custody of said child. I personally don't get why you would adopt your spouse's child anyway.|||Ace,


One of the oldest tricks (crimes?) in American Civil Justice 鈥?sticking adoptive daddy with decades of child support. You're all into the 19 months! She didn't need to wait that long, heck, she could have pulled the trigger after one day! Don't you just love, love it. Sorry.

How Long Does it take for a divorce to Finalize in the state of florida?

After the documents are signed by both parties,and submited to the court how long does it take for the divorce to finalize?|||took me about 2 months to finalize it.|||FL is one of the few states that does not have a required waiting period after filing for divorce.


Once all the documents are signed, and filed it won't take long at all. Just long enough for the court to process %26amp; record them....which all depends on how many other divorces %26amp; docs they're working on at the time. I would guess you should receive your final divorce decree within a month at VERY most.|||It totally depends on the circumstances. If all the documents are signed and submitted and nothing is contested anymore, it shouldn't take very long at all, a couple of weeks max. But it also depends in part on volume of cases. If you hit a busy streak, it will take longer. Where in Florida you live will impact this, too.|||As soon as you see the Judge and he say's it's over.

What are the reasons for a divorce when persons are married they are friends when become enemies then divorce?

What are the reasons for a divorce when persons are married they are friends when become enemies then divorce?|||divorce brings out the worst in people, they often forget that they ever loved that person. guess they become enemies when there is no reason to try anymore. becoming enemies also insures that they won't be having any thoughts of going back to that person. its caused by people doing the un thinkable to their mate, like cheating, disrespecting, fighting, hurting, after this they are no longer friends because they are hurt.|||A man should not divorce his wife except on the grounds of adultery; and even then, he could still decide not to divorce her. A woman should never leave her husband for any reason. But if she does, she should remain unmarried or reconcile with her husband.


A married couple should remain friends forever. If they become enemies, they should reconcile and become friends again.


Divorce is evil.|||Not all people become enemies when they divorce. I know a lot a divorced couples that just simply couldn't make it work and were smart enough to get out while they were still friends.





I think the bitterness sometimes comes when people wait so long to get divorced and one or both parties get greedy during the divorce that it simply makes it impossible to be friends in the end.





The biggest reason for divorced is money followed by infidelity. Its really how you go into it that determines if you will come out friends or even be able to be in the same room together.





I think way too many people jump the gun the first time anything goes wrong and they divorce. If they really thought about it they could have worked things out. Lack of communication is what makes these people enemies!|||鈽尖樇鈽?br>

#1 most common cause is that they got together prior to age 24.|||The Top 10 Reasons for Divorce





Infidelity


Communication Breakdown


Physical, Psychological, or Emotional Abuse


Financial Issues


Sexual Incompatibility


Boredom


Religious and Cultural Strains


Child Rearing


Addiction


Differences in Priorities and Expectations

How hard is it to do a divorce when living in tow different states?

I just moved moved across the us. I will need to file a divorce before years end. Does any how know the average cost and if it is too much harder to do out of state over 2000 miles away?|||Well, The rules and cost of divorce processors differ from state to state. Any way I would suggest u to heir a good lawyer for ur case n explain everything to him. Let him sort out a way for u.


U can read this this book if u need to acquire some more knowledge. http://www.reviewlocator.com/reviews/sur鈥?/a>|||costs more|||You should consult with a divorce lawyer in your state. I'm sure there are many factors that may increase the legal fees for a divorce.





From what I'm seeing after a quick search online, the only requirement for filing for divorce in any state is that you must be a permanent resident there for at least 3 months. This does vary by state, of course, and your best bet would be contacting a divorce lawyer.





Good luck.

What happens if both parents in a divorce claim their kids on their taxes?

If the IRS has prosessed the tax returns of one parrent and the other tries to claim them. will the IRS enforce the divorce decree, OR will it be considered a civil matter that the 2nd parrent would have to pursue in court.|||In my case, the nice lady from the IRS called.





I sent them proof that I was the "Legal Custodial Parent".





They said "thank you very much."





About a month later my ex was sent a bill that she was none to happy about...from what I hear.|||They will both be required to prove the right to claim the children and the IRS will decide. Then one will be forced to return the $ resulting from the illegal claim.|||only the parent that has physical custody (awarded by the courts in the divorce degree )can claim the child or children the other who claims is defrauding he US federal Gov and subject to criminal prosecution|||Its called jail!|||The second parent will have to pursue this via US mail with the IRS. Then the IRS will decide.|||The IRS will decide who gets the deduction.

How does the divorce work in AZ if one party cheated?

I'm not quite sure how divorce works in the state of AZ. Like if people have to split assets, etc. Alimony, stuff like that. But what if one party cheated, do they still get half? Could they get alimony? What if they technically got their half of the person's stuff already? Etc. Could someone point me in the right direction, don't say an attorney, becuae I'm not the one getting divorced, they will give me no information.|||The reason for the divorce does not have anything to do with splitting assets. That's a completely separate issue. AZ is a community property state which means all assets %26amp; debts will be split 50/50 during divorce, no way around it.


As far as alimony, its hard to get anyway, but the judge looks at all aspects of the marriage: how long you were married, who works, who stays home (if anyone) and makes the decision based on those details.|||Have the one involved in this situation to seek legal counceling. Also go to ASK.com. Divorce law for AZ. Try legal.com. All types of info are public documents.|||Each state has different divorce laws, so consult with a lawyer and get the facts

What is the easiest and least expensive way to get divorce or legal separation?

My husband and I are not working out. He has "broken up" with me minus the divorce. Right now I am contemplating getting a legal separation since i don't believe in divorces. Is there any way i can obtain it without having to pay so much out of pocket money to get it? I know our legal separation wont cause a nasty fight between us since we have already divided our assets.





O and I live in CA. i don't know if that information makes a difference.|||My friend got divorced and the only thing they really had to pay was to file at the courthouse (which in Idaho is $125).





They were able to work everything out without lawyers, so if you can do that, a divorce can be cheap.|||You can also visit Legal Documents 4 cheap at http://legaldocuments4cheap.webs.com/ you can get divorce documents for real cheap.

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|||you'd better start believing, babe. So many people who don't believe in divorce believe it only too well after he hires a lawyer and goes after you. Get ready, get a lawyer, and be 100% prepared to spend on legal counsel - it can save you big time in the end.|||If you can agree on the terms or your separatation, write it all down, sign it and have your signatures notarized. Then file your agreement at the courthouse. Doesn't cost anything.

How long does it take for a divorce to go through in Australia?

If there are 2 consenting adults with no children and they separated in May 2009 do they have to wait the full 12 months of separation before they can divorce. We have an appointment with a solicitor in 2 weeks but would appreciated an indication before then if possible. Thanks for your input.|||You have to be separated for 12 months before you can file for divorce.





Once you file, they give you a court date. You then have to have the other person 'served' with divorce papers.





You turn up to court on the day.........the registrar asks you a few questions, and then your divorce will be final in one month and one day from the day you went to court.|||If they are married for less than 2 years, they have to obtain compulsory counselling, plus be separated for 12 months before a divorce will be granted. Either way, you can't avoid the 12 month separation period.





It's not even necessary to see a solicitor if you don't want to. Just be nice, divide everything in half, and file it with the family court. You don't even need to show up at court.|||I don't think you need to wait that long I know a relative from Melbourne who got it done it 4 weeks

How can I find out if someone had gotten a divorce?

I know both names of the people, and where they live. But I'm not sure on exactly where they would have gotten their divorce, if they even did.


I'm not sure on the county, or anything, but I might have an idea. Either way, what can I do to find out about this divorce? Is there any where online to look up, or any other way? All hope is greatly appreciated! |||If they married in US...you can go to Intelius.com and you'll get the information you need to know but you have to pay $4.99 if they're still at this promo price. That's all I could share to you...only all over US.|||you can try to contact the court house in the town you think they got married in and ask.... |||Depends on your budget too. You can hire a private detective if you have sufficient funds. Google searches and online websites may be a cheaper option but you can never be too sure

What if i served my husband with divorce papers, but he calls me everyday to see how i am doing?

because i am 9 months pregnant, for 4 months that were seperated he never bothered and all of a sudden he started to call me and care for the child. i do talk to him for 2 weeks already because i am using him for him to buy everything for the baby......but can that screw up with my divorce case by us keeping in contact?|||I wouldn't worry about it. I think it will help to be on good terms once the two of you become parents. You can still get a divorce even though you can get along. Sometimes being apart makes any relationship better. Maybe good friends is what you're meant to be.|||Maybe he just realized that he cares about being a father. You can have an amicable divorce - it is not only possible but, if you are determined to divorce him, you should want that.


You have to have a lawyer to be divorcing your husband - there is just no way to go into a divorce without legal representation and so, I have to ask, where is your lawyer? You should be asking him these questions along with very important questions about custody and child support!


It sounds like you are determined to go ahead with this divorce. But if your husband is concerned about you and the child you two have together (he will always be in this child's life - and he should be because a child needs a father, his father, not just any guy), you could ask him if he's willing to work on making the marriage successful. A marriage counselor is lots less expensive than all the legal bills ahead of you..|||Yes and no. when a divorced case go to court, no one know how far the case will go, or how long would it take. On top of attorney from both parties may give each one of you idea to make thing more complicate it more. Also no Judge will jump right into conclusion to give you divorced right the way. On top of it, during the processing either party can make more complication to the case.


Well, the child that you are carrying is his child too. I am a dad also. What every differences we men want to put on the site, and try to concentrating on the child i who is going to be born into this world.





This is what i see, when you married, you married for life. the vow that to make in church it does linger for life, and specially when a child involved. Later on in life, every time something the child need paper work will go back as far. Or every time you buy a house or take a loan question will go back as far. I can see couple divorced because they can not live together but being a ***** as each other will make life more difficult, and make it difficult to the child too|||It won't screw up your chances of a divorce. A divorce is a decision to no longer live together in the eyes of the law as husband and wife but that does not change the fact that he is the father of your child.





In fact, he seems to be genuinely caring for you and your unborn child. Fortunate you. :)|||Why do you feel the need to "use him"? Don't you have any morals?


He would probably buy his baby everything he can afford to anyway.


You are not a nice person I don't think.|||he will have contact anyway long as he pays his child support they will grant him visitation rights to see the baby if its his|||No You need to have a good relationship for the sake of the child

How complicated is it to file for divorce yourself through the courts in Texas?

I would like to file for divorce in Texas and would like to know how complicated the process really is. We have one child together, but other than that, there are no assests, no large amounts of money to divide or anything like that. What are my options?|||Normally it would not be a problem as long as you don't have children. Since you do have a kid involved, I suggest you see a paralegal. They are just as informative and helpful as lawyer, but much more affordable and they take payment plans.|||I used a document prep service. They prepare the divorce papers for you and you take them to the court house and file them. They will only help if its an uncontested (agreed upon) divorce. Contested divorces require lawyers. And yes, they also help when children are involved.|||go see a divorce lawyer and get advice.a lot of times the first consultation is free.that lawyer will tell you everything you need to know.if you are doing everything in a mature manner everything should go smoothly.good luck.|||Probably no more difficult than any state. It should be pretty easy if there are no assets. The visitation or custody is a separate court, however.|||Just go online and print out the form and take it in 60-90 days later its done.|||Don't get a divorce! It's not worth it. The pain is more trouble than it's worth. When you got married you did it for better or worse. The situation you in is the worse, but it will get better if you stay committed. If you are being physically abused, then don't live together, but don't end the marriage. Divorce is cop out. You're better than that.

What is the divorce rate in other countries?

I live on the US, where the divorce rate is at least 50%. Married couples just seem to not be able to get along. I was just curious, what are the divorce rates in other countries, such as Canada, the UK, Ireland, Australia, and New Zealand?|||In Ireland, the divorce rate is the lowest of the EU. This is because it is a catholic country and there is NO SUPPORT for women who are being beaten by their husbands. They also tend never to receive equitable settlements in divorce.





Divorce in Canada is about 48%.


UK is roughly the same as the US


Australia is about 40%


The best I could find on New Zealand is 30%, but it's a bit of a misnomer since couples simply choose not to marry at all.





In most cases, it isn't because the couples get along better in other countries - it is how the divorce laws work. For instance, in Spain, until recently, it took years and great expense to get a divorce. Now they have streamlined it and introduced no-fault divorce. So, you will likely see the divorce rate pick up there, but Catholics do tend to divorce less often, so it isn't going to be as high as say the UK.|||Well in some countries the divorce rate is actually going down, because many couples are not getting married. Why marry , when you know very well that you will divorce one day.|||ive lived in other countries regardless of the divorce rate unfortunately adultery abounds.

some people just can't afford lawyers.|||why don't US get along

What is the most important reason that leads to get divorce?

Hi everyone, I've a survey for the causes of divorce. Please help me as you can. I'll appreciate your time. :-) . In addition, write any divorce reason you know or already heard it.|||1. Money - It's the biggest pin fall among couples


2. Cheating - Not being totally committed to each other.


3. Lying - It convinces your spouse that you are nothing but a liar


4. Trust - You need to learn to trust each other


5. Respect - You accept your partner as he/she is


6 Laziness - You have to be a hard working person to help pay the bills


7. Too much on the internet - You have to spend time with your spouse instead of the computer|||Marriage is the Number One cause of divorce.





I like the old saying...Women marry men hoping they will change, and men marry women hoping they won't.





Women change the moment they get married. It is the completion of a life chapter. The next chapter is about getting kids. Then comes the reality of how the husband doesn't really fit into the picture anymore. Communication ceases. Physical relationship evaporates. Then comes the Roommate phase, where the only difference is you can move out in a day and it's over.


Finally, the guy loses all his stuff and money for the rest of his life. It's all his fault.|||Here are the top 5 most common reasons:





1 - lack of communication





2 - finances





3 - sex/cheating





4 - wrong expectations/selfishness





5 - lack of commitment|||I say people's desire for change and inability to truly commit anymore. If you check out http://www.cadivorcemediation.com/blog/ you might find it interesting|||Disloyalty. 1 in every 10 spouses cheats on their spouse with another person (single or taken). It's what's the leading cause of divorces in 2011, and it is sin corrupting our once pure world.|||very simple! ungodliness. which translates into many definitions! go ahead think of one? you see.|||1. Money


2. Sex


3. Kids


4. In laws


5. Religion

Is it illegal to refinance before a divorce process to get spouse off mortgage?

More specifically, my wife doesnt want house which there is little equity anyway. We are going to do FHA streamline to take her off then take her off title afterwards. Again, she absolutely wants nothing to do with home. As far as lender is concerned we are still technically married and have not filed anything. Can we be sued or go to jail if we divorce a few months after refinancing? I have not lied to the bank because we ARE married, we just told them she wants off the mortgage, which is also technically true.|||I am not sure if it is fully illegal. It depends on the state but federal laws will come into play since you are not being honest about the borrowers income. I'd say it is deceptive if it went to court when you both knew fully well you are in the divorce process. you should at that time simply refinance into your own name and qualify individually or she will be a tenant in common instead of "joint".|||You will have to credit-qualify on your own with the streamline, but no, this is not an issue. At time of divorce your wife will have to sign a quit-claim deed since she'll still be on title. As long as the lender fully qualifies you with just your income and credit, though, you'll be fine.|||You just refinance it in your name only. Nothing illegal about it at all. You could do it even if you weren't divorcing.



Talk to Chase (Is that who you decided to go with?) and let them know the situation. You're not the first person to be going through this.

How long does it take for a divorce to become final in South Carolina?

If the plaintiff and defendant both sign the papers the day they are filed in South Carolina, is there a waiting period? How long before the divorce is final?|||I think 30 days.|||Hi Dawn...





You know,, This is going to sound like a smart alec answer... but it's not.





The usual wait is 60 - 90 days. But the literal answer is, whenever the judge decides to sign the papers. I don't believe the law sets a definite time limit. He can sign them in 10 days, or 200 days... whenever he feels like it.|||1 day if you kill them. I recommend moving to mexico after it tho.

How to support Sister going through divorce?

I am somewhat estranged from my sister who lives across the country, but found out through family that she is having a really hard time and her husband is pushing for a divorce. What is the best way for a family to support a sister going through a divorce? If you've gone through a divorce, what support did you find helpful?|||there's really nothing you can do but tell her you love her and if she ever needs anything you will be there for her.|||I found it best that family stay out of the situation in all 3 of my divorces. You can offer moral support but don't get involved too much in the situation.|||Maybe just reach out to her on the phone, and listen to her, if she wants to talk. This might be a way for the two of you to get closer, because it is sad that you are estranged.|||dont be to intrusive.. just let her know that if she needs to talk or anything you will be there for her|||just call your sister and let her know that you are there if she needs anything ... I went through a divorce and really only needed the comfort of my son while going through the divorce as I asked for it first

How can my friend go about getting a divorce with out his wife's content, while been in jail?

My friend is in jail and is trying to divorce his wife. His wife says she will not divorce him and refuses to any divorce papers. He wants to know is there a way of getting it done with out her? Or should he file for legall separation that'll end up to getting a divorce?|||when our criminal ministers can fight election remaining in jail then why cant a common man fight case of divorce remaining in jail .yes he can|||He can file for divorce, and serve her the papers however she can contest even though she's in jail. The only way to get a contested divorce finalized is by using a lawyer, he will NEED a lawyer otherwise he'll never be divorced.


He can file for legal separation however from my understanding she would have to agree and sign those papers as well.


It comes down to this....if she contests he'll need a lawyer to get it finalized, no matter what.|||have him file for divorce, legal separation is just a waste of paper and time. have the county sheriff or local police dept serve them to her they keep records of papers served and if she refuses the papers from them they will make note of it and she will miss her court date. and the divorce will go through you can hire a process server to do the same but the police department will be the less of the 2|||You want to compell(and expell) her for divorce.Even if you will file for divorce under sec 13 HMA and if she is not willing to give it ,you will not get it .Trust me.


So better is to use or money to come out and leave happy married life with one who still want to leave with u .As no good girl will like to marry a convicted person.|||Hire a process server! Don't tell her the papers are coming or of course she won't accept them! A process server will wait for the perfect time and surprise her. She won't know what hit her. There is no reason to file for separation. That will just prolong the divorce and cause more paperwork for no reason.|||Let us see; "Your friend is in jail, and he wants to surreptitiously divorce his wife without her complete knowledge and consent"? It sounds like your friend needs to stay in jail, and she needs to kick him to the curb. All states need permission from both parties to a divorce.|||File separation papers , In Australia you can get a divorce after one year of separation with or without the other party permission|||He should file for legal separation. In the UK you can get a divorce after 5 years of legal separation if the other person does not sign|||File for a legal separation, he has time to spare anyhow.|||I think both parties have to agree.|||She has every right to want to keep her husband around and I hope she wins.|||He should probably write a letter to a Legal Aid Lawyer and find out

What can i do to remain in england after a divorce?

I was married to a british girl, now we are getting a divorce. I had a 2 year limmetid leave to remain visa that only last for 2 years and it is running out next year January now that we are getting a divorce what is my opptions? Is there something i can do to remain in england?|||get sponsorship from the company you are currently working for, get a teir 1 visa, pay for a course at a registered uni or college (will effect the hours you can work).





Or you can go back to where you're legally allowed to work.|||nothing go home if you not supposed to be here then go home

What is the best to avoid divorce when a spouse wants a divorce?

My wife wants to to divorce since she doesn't love me any more according to her even though she thinks I am a great guy and we have been married for 15 years and have two kids. She has been going counseling, but still determine to get a divorce. Any recommendation?|||If she's set on a course of action for herself, you probably won't be able to do much to change her mind.


Try to keep it as positive/peaceful as you can for the sake of your kids.


There might be a chance for reconciliation in the future if she can work out her OWN issues, but don't put your life on hold for that hope.


Best to you, Honey.


xoxoxoxo|||You can't do anything.|||Get yourself a good lawyer dude.|||You cannot make her stay married to you if she wishes to get a divorce. If marriage counseling isn't working, nothing will.|||There is no way that I know of to avoid divorce when your spouse no longer loves you.|||Stop being an ar$e and respect your wife's decision that she doesn't want to stay married to you anymore, and just move it along. Why on earth would you want to stay married to someone who doesn't love you?|||She sounds bored. Have you been being too nice? Too perfect? Too boring?|||Doesn't sound like there's much you can do. If you've been through councelling and she still wants a divorce, she's pretty sure about it. I know it hurts and it's really bad but you have to try and accept it and move on. Good luck.|||Its always possible to fall back in love. Dont give up.|||your wife is breaking her family apart for her own selfish gain. She will pay the price later at her judgement. This makes her an unbelieving spouse in Jesus' eyes because a believing spouse can not leave except for adultry which you don't mention. You are FREE to remarry and your ex will be the one to pay for her selfishness. Good luck.





Also, if you have kids under the age of 18, fight like hell to get custody of them. I don't feel the parents who rips the family apart (except for adultry, abuse, etc), should have the primary parenting role.|||Do you really want someone to be miserable just so you can be happy? I would much rather be with someone that DOES want to be with me. If she stays just to make you happy, what's to stop her from cheating? And at that point she probably wouldn't even try to hide it.

What happens when renters get a divorce?

I live in a multi-unit building. A couple who has the best unit in the building seems to be going through a nasty divorce - might even be a restraining order involved. They've definitely seperated. They have the best unit in the building and if it became vacant I would like to move there. I was wondering if the chances of the apt becoming vacant are any greater in light of the divorce? What happens when a married couple rents a place and then splits up? A rented apt is not like a house that can be sold and the profits split. One spouse has rented the apt for 10 yrs, 5 yrs before they met. Presumably they're both on the lease now. Would the original tenant/spouse get to stay? Is there a general way these things go, or does it vary wildly?





Sorry if this makes me look like an awful person. I'm not happy they are divorcing, though all the other tenants and I would be happy if both of them were gone, since they are both violent alcoholics and obnoxious neighbors.|||If they do get a divorce and neither of them decides to stay, they will probably choose to sublet the apartment rather than break their lease. If one of them seems like less of a violent alcoholic you might try just casually asking what they plan to do with the apartment. If they say sublet it, you could then mention your interest. However, subletting from them would mean dealing with them, which might turn out to really suck. If one of them was already renting before the divorce he/she might choose to stay; usually when people move out after a split it's because they can't afford the rent on their own. Doesn't sound like that's the case here.|||nothing you can do al long as one of them pays the rent|||completely up to what they work out between them. He may stay, she may stay, or they both may move.|||Either of them can stay there if they like. All they have to do is pay the rent. One of them probably will.

How long after legal separation and then divorce till it is final in California?

Legally separated for 2 years. Do you still need to wait another 6 months once you move to the "divorce" part of the process?|||From my understanding, getting legally separated does nothing to shorten the required 6 month waiting period for a divorce in Cali. Legal separation is just another form of "breaking up" however you are still legally married. You will need to go through normal divorce process which unfortunately includes waiting 6 months for it to be legal.

What is the paper I must file to cancel our divorce after the papers have already been served? We both agree t?

My husband has already been served with divorce papers but now we have reconciled. How do we cancel the divorce?|||You need to first look to your documents of filings to discover the stage of your proceedings. If a judgment has not yet been granted, spouses can ask the judge to stop divorce proceedings.





Courts frequently stop divorce proceedings to allow for counseling, mediation, or an opportunity to negotiate, unless either spouse demands dissolution, in which case the divorce proceedings will resume. Be warned, courts do not take kindly to delay tactics or unreasonable arguments.





Since divorce laws differ among states, it is important to speak to a lawyer who is familiar with the local rules of your area.





It isn't that difficult but even if you both want to reconcile there are still consequences when not complying with court orders, subpoena's, etc and you need to know the legal resources for withdrawal so your husband doesn't get in any trouble for not following an order that may have been served on him.





Another option is to call your clerk of the court and tell them of your situation and steps you need to file a petition to stop proceedings.





Best of luck to you two :)|||Do you have an attorney? If you do, then he or she will know.





And if you don't, then WHY NOT???





Divorce is not for novices. Hire a professional.|||A dismissal without prejudice|||In this state, if no action is taken within a year it is dropped.

What questions will be asked in a divorce hearing?

I have a divorce hearing in 3 days. My attorney has not told me any questions to be prepared for, for cross-examination. I was wondering what types of questions will most likely be asked and what is the best way to handle these questions?||| Ask your lawyer..a lawyer knows the questions asked. My prepared me with generalized questions that the judge was going to ask..that is what you paid them for

Can US citizens who got married in Italy file a divorce in California?

Two US citizens got married in Italy, but never filed marriege in the US. Now we are trying to figure out the fastest way to file a divorce. Would that be filing a divorce in California where we both reside? In such a case, do we still have to divide our assets and property into half?|||California has jurisdiction over your marriage should you choose to file for the divorce there. California is a community property state and more than likely everything will be a shared split.

How long does divorce take if my husband is out of state?

I filed for divorce, my husband has not been served he is out of state. Does this mean thatt the divorce wont be processed until he is served? And if so how long does it take until its finalized? Thanks!|||You'll probably have to wait until he gets back first.|||It depends. If he can't be found the court can order that an ad be put in the paper for 30 to 90 days asking for him to come forward to "contest" the divorce. If he still doesn't show or can't be found the court can declare divorce final without him being present. Friend of mine went through something similar and it took about 6 months.

What are the signs of an impending divorce?

I really need to know what a kid feels during the time of a divorce. What are the signs that the kid would see?|||In a divorce period the kids always have the hardest time, i mean u will have some hard times and good times, but for kids its always a hard time because they r seeing two people whom they love and lived with since they opened their eyes, they r used to both of their parents and they need both, u can help with that by not taking revenge and try to talk to them and tell them nothing will change, it shouldn't change because kids need both their parents in their life, but u should make sure that they will get the same from the other side.|||My parents got a divorce when i was like 3 or 6 and my 2 siblings were even younger and i won't lie to you its not easy on any one. but a child can tell when somethings going on they can feel the tenchion and stress. weather its being sent their room or being told go play so you can talk then being able to here's whats being said is also something kids do. kids are nosiey they want to know what happening and they want to know and feel safe. but also know that if this has been going on for a long time the child will start thinking that its normal. if you used to be all love e dove e all the time and now you have suddanly stop thats a red flag to. kids are actually smart then most people relize.if a kid also cetches eaither of you crying or becoming emotional by thems selfs or to any one else then there other parent then there bound to question themselfs. a really good site that i wish i would have known about when i went thought it (http://www.helpguide.org/mental/children鈥?/a>


give it a look its wonderful!|||Kids soak up that lack of love between their parents. I have said this before, "The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." If you are not, your children will feel and see all of the changes (liyyle to large) right down to mealtimes alone, etc.|||Kids (depending on their age) don't see signs like adults of divorce. They do see the distance and feel the impact of that more. Kids will always think they did something when it is clearly not.

How is auto insurance affected by a divorce when there is a debt owed and its in both parties names?

15,000 owed and in the middle of settling community property. She is the primary driver. As of right now the insurance is set up as if we were still married as the insurance company is not aware of the divorce. What would happen if she were to get into an accident in the vehicle.|||The only concern the insurance carrier would have is who's going to pay the premium , who going to be the rated driver and where the vehicle will be lodged.





If an accident happens, if both of you are still on the policy...both are still insured.





When the settlement is situated, the one turning over the car needs to contact the insurance carrier and remove their name from the policy.





As for the vehicle, if it's in both names and still financed..both are responsible for the payment until the contract is paid off or re-financed.|||She'd be covered. If the divorce is final, the driver who gets the car needs to get it insured in/his her name alone. This might require a new policy; I don't think you can just cut off one name.

How can i start a thesis statement on my parents divorce?

My main points are:


-Short term and long term effects of the divorce


-Development (mental, financial, support)


-Results (positive/negative, ideas, beliefs, and feelings)





This is for my psychological research paper. I chose to do it based on my parent's divorce. Could someone please help me form a strong thesis statement.


Thanks!|||i do not think anyone here in yahoo answers can do it for you and moreover answering such complex questions require deep analysis of theories and research done by others inorder to get a good grade. it is more useful if you use some website like fastcustomessays.com for such task, which i used for mine but remember that it is highly recommend to write your own paper iff you have enough time and knowledge otherwise itz okay to use such helps from these experts. One thing i am sure that they will nevr disappoint you because i know so many mates using such helps and getting decent marks on their papers|||I use this one for my papers..

Looking for resources on dealing with divorce when you do not have children?

I'm trying to find information on dealing with divorce/ emotions after divorce for married couples that did not have children. Everything I find is related to having children in the middle of divorce.|||Hey wis_girl. I was in the same boat you were in, married/divorced no kids. I read some divorce books but when it came to the sections dealing with kids, I just ignored them. What also works is going to counseling or find a divorce support group. Books work well for divorce up to a point but they all pretty much say the same thing. Talking to someone really helps and most people who went through a divorce can offer better personalized advice/support. Best of luck to you going through this difficult time. You'll make it out o.k. and be a better person because of it.|||it nothing it like nothing happened with that person cuz they didnt have any kids so what would tie them together?|||Hello I got divorce this summer so I know what your going through. There lots of material online that should help you, but find something to do, join the gym, join a book club, buy some new clothes do something! If you dont you'll go crazy in the house

How do I find the best divorce lawyer in town?

Basically, I just need about 3 - 5 referrals of the best lawyers in my town to visit with them. But there are literally thousands in the yellow pages and online. How could I relatively quickly find a list of some of the top divorce lawyers in my town?|||Every state has a bar association..





Call them and ask for referrals..





Talk this over with your trusted friends...surely someone lese has been where you are, and has travelled the same road, they may have a referral for you. Once you get a few numbers together then start making calls and disscussing your situation with those you find...





From there its a matter of gut- What is your gut telling you? Surely one will rise to the top..





Also, If you have made the decision to leave, and are set on a divorce, then now is the time you need to start thinking about yourself, and how to make the best of the situation...





Where will you live? have you looked for an apt? better start now...





Have you any property youll want to protect? Start the inventory now, so you'll be able to rationally talk things over with the attorney when the time comes. Take care of your self first, and make whatever arrangements you need to now, before things get heated.





It took me 6 weeks of planning before I ever said a word, but when the time came I set the date, and knew i had a lease signed on a new place, and even had the rental truck, and help at my side,





When the day came, she left for work, I left to pick up the truck, and when it was all said and done, I was moved into the new place, and back at work before lunch... ( note to self- put the pets in the new place first, instead of last and scrambling around to get the cat in the box, after they have already figured out something is very worng)





she called my work at 230 that after noon, completely clueless, and asked how my day was... I said, whoa babe, I am all over the place today!... I left at 5 to go home just as she was leaving her work and being served papers by the sherriff... i got a text message form her saying something about my parents never being married, and I just laughed...





We were fortunate... no kids, so when judgement day came, I took what was mine, she took what was hers, and it was over.. and I never looked back.





You will get past this...





Good luck.|||Honey ...If you want to find me and you got enough money I would be glad to . You can find me .... We can do this but you gotta be sincere man ,cause alot of this stuff goes into the gabage can! And that dishwasher I need ...it cost too much money for me!! I'd love to have a new home one where my mind can rome but you know ya gotta take it slow!!! lol..lol...lol...lol... My sweetheart needs a new song ...so maybe he'll take me along? Happy Valentine day Baby ..this will be the first of many more in my purse!|||Well i don't know where you from but i'm from jacksonville Fl and i know its really hard to find good lawyer. i recommend you lawyers jacksonville florida. i hope it will help you.|||The best way is through word of mouth. Go to the top 3 or 4 and visit with all of them. The ones that you talk to cannot represent your wife. That takes away the top ones out of her choices.|||Where are you from???? until then I cant help you. I know alot of lawyers|||Pick 1 and go with it !!!








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What the price to contest a divorce with children involved in Indiana?

I am filing the divorce, and concerned that it may be contested by soon to be ex husband.|||they have no fault divorce in Indiana you don't have any reason to not get one if that is what you want. You can get one even if he doesn't show up to court. There is nothing to contest just setting a time for you both be with the children.|||I'm sure glad I live in California. We have "no fault" divorce. There's no such thing as contesting a divorce here. If only one spouse wants out, then the divorce is granted as long as all the papers are filed properly. There doesn't need to be any reason and we're not required by law to hire a lawyer.





If you're required by law to hire a lawyer in Indiana, then God help you and your bank account! In family law cases, it's best not to hire a lawyer.

How much does it cost for Divorce through Mutual concent in Bangalore?

We are planning to apply Divorce(Mutual concent) in Bangalore, India. Please tell me approximately how much would it cost to advocate. Just to get the money ready.|||鈥淓veryone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery. Luke 16:18, Mark 10:1-12, Bible Remarriage is ONLY allowed AFTER the death of one spouse. All Double Marriage is adultery! Corinthians 7:39, Romans 7:2, Until death do you part is the bible teaching. Divorce is allowed only under the circumstance of unrepentant adultery, Matt 5:31-32. If they separate, they MUST remain unmarried, or be reconciled back together, 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. As Justin Martyr said around 150AD, "All who are twice married are sinning against God" This is the teaching of the real church. www.earlychurch.com www.charityministries.org www.anabaptists.org www.beachyam.org ALSO Three Stories of Grace is 3 stories of couples who came out of adultery http://www.charityministries.org/theremn鈥?/a> Also: http://www.cadz.net/mdr.html|||250.00 without kids and its 250.00 plus 50.00 a head per child

Does the Divorce Kit from Staples have everything included in it for the divorce?

Does the divorce kit that you can buy from Staples have all the documents and forms in it needed for the divorce?I have no children with the man that I am divorcing and we were married in the state of oregon.Has anyone used the Divorce Kit for Staples?Please Help!? Any advice,tips or experience would be greatly appreciated.|||My advice is, if you want to handle this yourself, go to the Clerk of Courts office where you live, and ask them for the forms you will need, and the procedure to file them. They can tell you costs, timeframe, etc! I would not spend my money on the Staples kit!|||If you have no assets together go for it, if you do find one with a lawyer in it.

How long does it take to divorce a cheater?

My "husband" admitted that he still in love with a co-worker that he had an affair. That is the only probe I have from this year. Can I use his confession during the divorce? How long is going to take the process?|||In the U.S. adultery is NOT grounds for divorce. (Take the hint). You will have to consult a lawyer as to what grounds you would have and move on from there. Each state has their own time frame as far as separation prior to filing for divorce, you will have to comply with that law once you file it depends upon whehter the other person wants to fight the divorce, or if they want to make changes and could take months, even years.|||If you file for an uncontested divorce today then it would be finalized in as little as 6-8 weeks.|||6mos, but you should seek counseling first and try to forgive them because divorces suck more|||It depends on a lot of things, like if you have hard evidence or what you site as reasons for divorce.|||It's your word against his. He could always deny that in the end unless you have hard evidence.

What is the impact of divorce on children?

I'm doing a Sociology project and I'm trying to figure out the different impacts of divorce on children.





Would you think that divorcing with children under thirteen is better than divorcing with children above thirteen? Why?


Thanks in advance.|||It is MUCH less damaging then the children seeing the parents fight and being unhappy. The parents are better of divorcing if they are not happy together, to save their childrens minds.|||I think there would be major impact on the children if the parents were verbally abusive to each other, or always had major fights that the children always witness those acts. If the parents are physically/verbally abusive, I think it can have a bigger impact on children under 13 because when I studied Psychology, my lecturer kept saying that the period that you can get affected the most is your childhood which would lead to troubles in their later years. As for impacts, I would say it goes along the lines of children start socializing with bad influences, maybe start picking up bad habits such as drugs, drinking to cope with the high level of stress.|||In our society it is fairly normal to have divorced parents so there is no social stigma. The impact comes from poor or high conflict co parenting situations. Co parents who do not plan or prepare but simply create 2 homes, shuttle the kid back and forth and fail to see the stress it can cause. Younger children cannot typically handle the back and forth every 2 days so custody should allow them to be in one place for at least 4 days. Then there is the boyfriend/girlfriend, step parent thing. Co parents fail to realize they can't just bring a person into a kid's life without a plan for what this person;s role will be.





And I say they younger you set up 2 homes the better they will be able to adjust. The older they get, it becomes rougher for them to organize their books, sports equipment, and activity schedule based on whose house they will be at.|||I was 15 when my parents divorced. Although I was old enough to understand %26amp; lived w/ both parents being together for a lot of my childhood life, it was still awkward %26amp; a mess. I felt like I didn't really get to know my dad as well as I should have. We would see him every other weekend %26amp; most of the time his gf would be around. So I never really got any one on one time with him. Also I had to sit %26amp; listen to my mom complain about my dad all the time. Although the divorce was basically at the fault of my dad, at least he didn't complain about all the wrong things my mom did. I lost the family life. I really don't know if it would have been easier if I was younger or not. I think it was easier for my to understand because I was over, however the process may not have been any easier or harder.


All I have to say to parents who are going through a divorce is don't say anything bad about he other parent in front of your children. Make it easy for the children to see both parents equally. If someone new comes into your life, make sure your still have alone time for your children, %26amp; make sure the new person treats your children well (is nice to them %26amp; does not ignore them, etc).

Is there any seperation period which is must before divorce in Australia?

is there any minimum period which we have to show as seperation period as per legal rules before filing for divorce. if yes, do we need to file for legal seperation or can we show it just by telling that we have been seperate since ....so much period? i mean should this seperation period be started after some paper work or can we just tell it at time of divorce?|||one year divorce in Aust

What is the effect of a divorce upon a will made during marriage?

A question for my Will's and Estates class. Under New York State Law.





What would the effect of a divorce upon a will made during marriage?|||In New York, a divorce revokes the will with regard to the ex-spouse.





(Note: This does vary from state to state so anyone else who reads this make certain you check the law for your specific state!)|||It depends on the wording of the will. If for instance you state that you leave all your possessions to your wife and you are no longer married to her, then your ex-wife DOES NOT have a claim to your estate anymore since she is no longer your wife. If on on the other hand you were to state the name of your wife in the will, then she will still be entitled to your estate since her name is concrete on that legal document is entitled to whatever you leave her of your estate.





This is why you really want to change your will when you either get a divorce or a beneficiary dies or falls out of favor for whatever reason.

What is the difference between a divorce and an annulment?

An annulment you get if you've been married for a few days or hours and a divorce is if you've been married for a while, am I right? or wrong? or a little off?|||An annulment is a declaration that there never was a marriage.





A divorce recognizes a valid marriage and provides for property distribution.|||A divorce is the dissolution of a legitimate marriage.


An annulment is virtually/legally saying no legitimate marriage existed.


Sometimes you can be married a short while, and still require a divorce. Sometimes you can be married a while and get an annulment - say the marriage was never consummated, and/or you never shared a life together.|||Your right..usually an annulment is when you married for like 6 months and want to divorce..but anything over that it will be considered a divorce..but it all depends on the state your living in they have certain requirements...like i believe here in Florida if your married and its not yet 6 months you will have to file for an annulment..hope this helps|||In the state I live in after a short marriage, when information surfaces that would have prevented the marriage from happening in the first place if it had ben known beforehand is grounds for a annulment.

Friday, September 23, 2011

How do you file for a divorce from a us citizen from another country?

My friend is from Syria. He lived in the states for awhile and married a US citizen. He found out she was on drugs and she left. He wasn't able to find her anywhere, so he moved back to Syria. How does he file for a divorce? Does he have to come back here to do it? Thank you.|||He should check with an attorney in Syria.





If he were just in another state in the US he would be able to file there, but the law of another country will tell him if he is able to file there.





Good Luck

How Many Republicans Are Going To Divorce Their Spouse When Same Sex Marriage Is Eventually Legalized?

Most Republicans claim that legalizing same sex marriage will destroy the sanctity of marriage, so when it eventually becomes legalized you Republicans who are married might as well file for divorce because marriage won't mean $hit anymore correct ? Because giving them queers the right to marry each other is obviously going to directly destroy your own personal marriage.|||Just like the heterosexuals.|||Same sex marriages is not a Federal matter but lies within the state's rights. Trust me, if Obama could have stomped on the Constitution one more time and passed legislation making it legal in all 57 (by his count) states he would have. Hey, if you want to run off to Vermont or wherever and marry your boyfriend go ahead, I don't really care.|||Trumpeting about the "sanctity of marriage" is just right-wing posturing. Whether or not gay marriage is legal, they'll go about their business as usual... Mark Sanford, John Ensign, Larry Craig, et al.|||Almost all of the people that I know that are divorced are republicans. I am sure that won't change.|||Obama: "Marriage is between a man and a woman"|||Using your logic, I think we should abolish laws against murder, because I personally would not be murdered.|||I've got $100 that says that no one will actually answer your question, but will instead drift off into other things.

What variables do you consider to be most important in explaining divorce?

What variables do you consider to be most important in explaining divorce?





Some say lower income means more divorce, or change in womens roles what do you think is the most important thing that causes divorce?|||communication failures and inability to forget past hard feelings. all incomes an sexes get divorced even gay couples can break up. every relationship requires work . hard feelings will stop someone from doing the work or even trying to talk a problem out.

How to find out if a divorce document is legal or not?

My parents had split up 3 years ago after 18 yrs of marriage. My dad moved out the same night after an argument. 1 year later, my dad hands my mother a document stating thats the divorce paper. Yet again, she had never gone to a court, nor received any kind of documents by mail, nor signed ANY kind of document before. We went to several courts, but they all say that we ahve to go to a lawyer. Each lawyer that i call wants to charge me. How to find out?|||Check the papers he handed you. There should be a court name on the top (e.g. 2nd division of the x county of y state). Call that county courthouse clerk's office and ask them if they have a copy of whatever divorce document was handed to your mom.





I'm a bit surprised that no lawyer would give you a free consultation. Keep checking the phone book - maybe you can get a free legal opinion from an attorney in your state (that would be the best answer).

What is the best way to get a cheap divorce in California?

I would like to end my 2 month old marriage. my wife is not ready for uncontested divorce. what is the cheapest way to get or file the divorce in california? we have no children or property out of this marriage.|||From someone who has been married 30yrs !!


You really have given your marriage a go have,nt you ?


Why get married for 8 weeks ???


Surely you had doubts about this


Before you committed ??|||Go to the library and tell them what your looking for and file the paper work yourself.|||Nothing from nothing leaves nothing!!|||If it's contested then it won't be cheap...

How can I expedite the divorce and determine custody at a later date?

My husband and I have been apart for just a few days more than a year now and we're still not divorced. It's been an ongoing battle of motion after motion that he's filing to try and gain full custody of our son. Neither of us contest the divorce, we both definitely want to get away from each other, he just wants what's most important to me... my child. If we can't agree on custody at this point but agree that a divorce now would be fine how, if at all, can this be done? I live in Florida if that matters.|||the judge would have to make one of you the custodial parent with the other only getting visitation. You must have this in order to finalize your divorce|||I'm not exactly sure how it works, but my friend in California did what you did. Her and her ex are divorced. But they hadn't agreed on child custody issues or financial stuff. So it can be done. Just talk to some lawyers or arbitrators and see what they suggest.|||Don't settle for less than what you deserve. On the other hand, don't deprive him of 50/50 if he's a good dad and that's what he wants. The judges will have to sort this out unfortunately and the person with the best attorney will likely win, not necessarily the best parent.|||In Florida, there is not a mandatory joinder of a Suit Affecting the Parent-Child Relationship, however, there it is mandatory that all things concerning the marriage, to include the children, be settled at the conclusion of the divorce proceedings.

What is the biggest regret after divorce?

Im afraid that if i divorce my husband of 10 months, i'll regret that maybe things could have been better without even taking the chance, then it will be too late to go back in time... I dont want to have regrets.. Any experience in this?|||YES! I have been through that very thing. Married less than a year before divorcing. I often think of the things we could have done different: counseling, talking more, putting my spouse before myself, so many things I regret not trying now. I would advise you to exhaust all possibilities before making that step. The first year is always hardest according to most couples.|||It depends what the basis for your divorce is. If you're divorcing him for physically or mentally abusing you, you will have no regrets. But if you're divorcing him for minor misunderstandings, then its worth giving it a second chance till you have mentally checked-out of the relationship once and for all. That way you will have no regrets and guilt feelings. Right now it seems like you're not fully prepared and confident about the step you're taking. You are not very clear if your husband has agreed to the divorce and if its mutual consent. If it is I m sure he has his own reasons too for pursuing the decision. best of luck.|||People make their mistake getting into a marriage. Usually one or both parties aren't mature enough or mentally stable enough to marry. It's really too soon to think about divorcing when you've only been married for 10 months. What on earth could have happened within this short period of time that you would consider divorcing your husband? You can't holler you want a divorce everytime you get angry or have a disagreement. Please consider counseling for the both of you. Read books on the matter if you have to. Good Luck!|||My biggest regret is making issues out of financial situations. Also, I regret that I wasn't respected in the marriage. I regret that BOTH partners don't try equally. In some relationships, mine for instance, I wasn't right and I was invisible. Though after the divorce I saw the affection and I certainly appreciate that he came home after work. So, I must say I wish I would have recognized the good and emphasized that as well as the bad. Secondly, I regret that he is incapable of being wrong.





Conflict is something he just can't deal with, therefore, he lied to avoid it and that always made it worse. I WISH I HAD PREMARITIAL COUNSELING....|||Divorce is not answer b/cos the ill effect of divorce on the children is very great. And if you don't have any child yet, think of ways of solving of the problems you facing now rather than running away from them because you could still come across them in the future - no human is perfect.Please go for Councelling, You and your husband has to make some sacrifices to achieve happiness in a Marriage.|||Well girl.





LIfe, we should be live honesty and truthful than there is no such thing we should be regret or even guilty. Although we mad like hell if thing turn out bad.


To me regret is doing some thing we shouldn't do. Disappointment went we fail to do something.


As you see we are only human. We see the burning bushes blossom before we see the pedals fall down and wind took it away. We only know that because we watched over the year.


In relationship, no one would know how is the out come of the future. we care fully planned, put in all the positive thought, hard works. But in relationship it take effort from both, not only you or him. We also can only take so much heartache, and anger, than we have to move on.


Changing is not easy. Bigest fear we don't grow younger, and every time we starting new chapter of life we have to starting every thing from the scratch again. we are the builder, we may build different things but the process is the same. One shavel at a time and one brick at a time, and as a builder we want the same thing. we want our building stand strong, stand tall, and last forever. we may run into disapointment but we should not regret.


I don't know much, but i do know this much, nothing in life stay the same, Life changing and people changing, and often change for the worse.|||If you are of opinion that there are some chance that your marriage could work again, you should both work hard at it and try.





but





If you are of the opinion that you are beating a dead horse - why waste your time?





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after reading your previous question and discovering that he actually hit you, please ignore my above answer - divorce him as fast as you can - these kind of people never change. If he already hit you within the first year, things are only going to get worse. Where will it end? Have you thought about that?|||If you only been ten month and want a divorce you are either to immature or you rushed into a marriage with your eye closed


I think you should work on the marriage at least try to give it two years but it does take two to make it work


start thinking why you married him in the first place and if you love him then do all you can to save the marriage|||I really regret marrying him. I wish that I could have my kids, and not have to ever see him again. He's a liar and a cheat. You need to decide if there will be regrets. Try counseling and see if it works. Nothing cures a liar. My husband lied to the counselor and she caught him too, so go with your gut. Would you be friends with him if you weren't married to him? If no, get out.|||I think unless ur just a cold person.. that theres always regret on some level..





Regret of the loss of a dream u had on your wedding day of what your life would be like..





Loss of a Whole family unit if you have children..





Loss of someone that was your best friend at one point, or cared for..





Loss of years of energy put into a relationship that inevitably didnt work..





Loss of time that you could of been looking for mr. or mrs right instead of being with the wrong person..





Loss of personal gains that perhaps u gave up for this person to share a life with them, to see it was a mistake..








There is always some type of regret.. 10 months is not a very long time to be married.. its not even enough time to really get to know each other, because u can date someone for 10 years before living with them and until ur married and living together and the "comfortable" sets in with all the quirks, and personality traits that were possibly hidden during the "dating" period the "watch what i do or say period of the relationship for fear the other person may move on".. u dont really get to know each other.. and the first couple of years can be the hardest for a couple.. u go from Honeymoon phase to "omg what have i done" to .. Great its been 4 years but i feel like ive been married for 10.. Marriage isnt a fantasy, or romantic novel.. it takes alot of hard work.. to make a marriage work, and it needs both people to make that happen.. i think unless he's being abusive , or cheating.. that you shouldnt leave yet, i think u just got to the "OMG what did i just do" phase.. kinda like cold feet after the fact.. try to make it work.. if its useless.. then leave before u have children brought into a unhappy marriage..|||Every man has a choice always and it depends upon u what to choose. Divorce is never a solution but Love is. Try to understand each other more and u will come to know that ur relation has come back to life. Plz do think about it..





http://www.reviewlocator.com/reviews/sur鈥?/a>|||No matter how you try to size it up it comes back to both people in the marriage have to want to stay together and do what it takes. If that is not the case on either of your part, then I would say, get out while you can before you invest more time into it.|||Mine was that I stayed married way too long. It was 8 years, and I knew after 6 months I'd made a horrible mistake. I should have ended it at 6 months, and moved on.





You need to go to counseling. You need to try to make it better. If you do counseling, or he won't do counseling, then end it.|||Please exhaust all other avenues. Divorce is a last resort.





Counseling is very important. Don't just give up without a fight.





Go to counseling. You need an unbiased third party to help you sort things out.|||Well only you know in your heart whether you gave this all that you could. If your still not sure if hes comfortable with it just hold off on the divorce longer. One question who's idea was it to begin with.|||Tell you what.......do the 13 weeks in divorcecare.com and then come back and ask the question.


You won't have any regrets.|||wow. does he know this and why? i stuck it out ten years before divorcing. there is a lot of emotions you go through, but time heals.|||Hi





Regrets are always there whether you do or not. If you do you regret for doing it otherwise for not doing it





I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED|||none............ the bit_h is out of my life. Ho ya One.


I regret the first few years I was with her. should have never happened.|||try 2 work it out through good and the bad just how u promised u should only be married once|||My biggest regret after divorce was to marry the guy in the first place.|||My brother tells me that the only regret he has is that he didn't do it sooner.|||My biggest regret after my divorce is that I did not do it earlier. Life got so much better after I left him behind

What important things need to know about getting a divorce?

My relative (female) is going through a divorce. She lives in California. She has no clue how to handle it as far as the procedures and things that she should look out for in terms of financial and getting the child support (2 small kids). Should she get a divorce lawyer? The main concern is she has no job and she worries not be able to afford to hire a lawyer. Please give some advice.|||Tell her to get an attorney. It will be paid for in the settlement.|||The first step before getting divorced is to get informed. Knowledge is power in divorce and it can help your relative to cope not only during the divorce proceedings, but also after divorce. Study the different divorce laws implemented on your state by logging in on this page: http://www.divorceguide.com/usa/divorce-鈥?/a>





Here are some of a few helpful tips that you could give to your relative:





* Have all joint accounts closed and create a personal one in order to protect your assets and finances. The soon-to-be-ex-husband may deplete all their saving, further placing your relative at a disadvantage


* Never date anyone until she is completely divorced


* Never leave the marital home unless a court order is forcing you. Staying at home at keeping an eye at her child is the best and safest bet to get her keep not only the house, but also her house





With regard to hiring a lawyer, she will have an edge if she can get a lawyer to represent her. However, since you've mentioned that she wants an affordable divorce, she could either 1) opt for an online divorce by accessing this page: http://www.divorceguide.com/usa/divorce-鈥?/a> or 2) take a DIY approach on divorce. Get her to download free divorce free papers online by logging on to his site: http://www.divorceguide.com/divorce-pape鈥?/a> and clicking on the state that you're relative is in. From here, she could start handling the divorce on her own, which also allows her to save money in the progress.





These should at least get you started with divorce. Here's the best of luck on her :)|||Well, she's very fortunate that she's in California and I'll tell you why (I'm in Los Angeles BTW).





Tell her to look up the phone number for her County's Superior Court, Family Law Division. Our courts here seem to have what's called a "Family Court Facilitator". And, what they do is only child support and child custody. Best part - it's free! You do not need an attorney. These are Paralegals by education and provided as a service of the court. She will have to pay for the court filing fee once the Facilitator has her paperwork completed and she'll also have to pay to have the court docs served on the dad - but we're talking maybe $100.





Now, when she's ready for the divorce part of all this - tell her to go to another Paralegal - this is an outside company "We the People" (www.wethepeople.com) and find out how much they charge to prepare the divorce-part of the paperwork (I think it's less than $300 and then whatever the filing and service fee is). Unless she has like some real estate, assets, etc. - tell her don't bother with a lawyer - the lawyer's the only one that wins in a divorce. She can do the divorce herself as long as she has these two paralegals to do the paperwork.





But, tell her to start with the Facilittor for the child part first. It's a place to get a start and she wants to especially make sure she has money from the dad for the kids (and, now that I think about it - I think the Facilitator can take care of her support / alimony - but not sure about that - she'll have to check).





Good luck....|||You can conduct a do it yourself divorce in California. The steps you now take are straightforward. You have to obtain the necessary documents for your divorce application. They are available free online. When you complete these forms you must use the correct words. If you don't the court will not accept your application and you'll have to start over.|||well the best thing she needs to know is the right "steps" they are listed as followed:





1 take a dump in his mouth when hes sleeping


2 key his car


3 hire a male prostitute so you can "get even"


4 dont just sign the divorce papers make him work for it


5 have a swell time





i hope this helps and i wish her the best of luck|||My advice, as a two time divorced person with no kids, is for her to get a lawyer...especially if he cheated or he wants out of the marriage...her lawyer can ask the courts to have him pay her lawyer and all court costs...especially if he has a good income, a lawyer may be willing to wait to get paid. She may only need to come up with a retainer...also, some lawyers do pro-bono (no fee) cases. Check at the local court house for advice also.|||This link might help





http://vickivanwinkle.com/default.aspx

What is the Marriage and Divorce Rate among Military personnel today?

I'm doing an article on Marriage and Divorce rates of young people in the military, but can't seem to find any information or stats that are more recent than 2008. Can anyone help with maybe links or anything?|||About 5% for the army, 32% for the marines, Navy 4%, Air Force 3%. Overall the divorce rate within the armed forces is about 4%.|||This November 2010 article gives the military divorce rates for 2010............

http://www.military.com/news/article/tro鈥?/a>



This is the orginal article that provided the click-on for the article above............

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/11/19鈥?/a>



Just incase it interests you, this recent news story is dated 12 April 2011..............

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/12鈥?/a>|||Sorry, I would be able to help more if I had all of my household goods. When you google, you aren't going to find the right answer. I'm retired but there are status that are kept, being a outside and a nobody since retiring it's hard for me to help you.





If you are on a Military installation, start with the Library.





Hope this help.|||There is about a 3-3.5 percent divorce rate overall in the military.





http://usmilitary.about.com/od/divorce/a鈥?/a>

How do you account for the popularity of divorce in America?

Almost half of American marriages now end in divorce. To what do you attribute this high divorce rate?|||├┬┤═┬┬


First off, half of marriages, but remember, most are repeat marriages. Over 85% of divorces involve people who were younger than 24 when they started living together or got married. That is the #1 reason. Once that first relationship gets screwed up, they just continue to repeat it.





Keep your pants, or panties on until age 24 and you are most likely to get a life partner.|||because people have lost the chains created by the social exchange of sex.


In marriage; Men get sex, women get status. This was the birth of monogamy


But now women no longer need status and are free to choose sex.


Thus monogamy becomes increasingly unnecessary, until sexual promiscuity decreases (usually in the late thirties and early forties). Thus people who marry before this time tend to divorce but people who marry later in life stay together.|||probably really bad fighting, if you have kids and they shouldn't be around a certain parent, bad drug attic, if someone abuses someone, they hate each other, he/her is never around, some people get divorced because one cheated on the other.. lots of reasons..|||Women have a lot more roles in the workplace today, and are therefore more independent. In the past, women were expected to remain loyal to their husbands no matter what (even abuse).|||The universal unpopularity of marriage.

Anyone go through a divorce and lived with ex for the kids sake after the divorce?

i know someone who is getting a divorce, and doesnt love her ex anymore, but they are planning on living with each other as roommates for right now after the divorce for the sake of the kids, so as not to traumatize them. has anyone else ever done it or is doing it now, and what were your experiences like? she is seeing someone already.|||Well, I've known a couple who did this, but neither dated openly until the kids were out of the house. They remained married and did this for the kids. It worked out for them because they were able to respect each other and they agreed on how to handle things. I really admired them for this. Cut the dating out for now. There will be plenty of time for this down the road. Kudos on putting the kids first!|||I'm sort of in that situation. Neither one of us really wants to be in our marriage anymore, but we care for one another, have 3 kids, and have no family to help out if we separated. So, we live together as roommates and raise the kids.





It has good days and bad - better days now that it is out in the open that this is an arrangement and no one is looking for what you would get from a marriage. Neither one of us dates - this is crucial!|||I think that is a really bad idea. Things are just going to get really bad. They need to stop it before it happens cause it will be just like they were married. They will fight and everything else. And they say they are doing this for the kids, it is only going to make it harder on the kids when things get bad and one of them has to leave. Stop it before it happens. What was the point of getting divorced then???|||Divorced and doing it right now.





I stay in the master bedroom, and he is in the guest bedroom. Our boys know we are divorced. We are very civil--friendly, even. He is seeing someone and I am very much in love with a wonderful man. My boyfriend knows my situation, as does my ex-husband's girlfriend. We don't bring our friends around the boys.





It's a good arrangement for now, and the boys have the benefit of seeing both their parents on a daily basis. When I have plans, the ex is there with the boys, and vice-versa. For instance, I'm leaving for Tampa tomorrow. Don't have to worry about the boys, because they'll be with their Dad!





It can work, but only if both parties don't lose sight of what's important--THE KIDS. I don't care what he does, and I assume he doesn't care what I do. We have always been a good team when it came to our children, and that hasn't changed.|||It wont be less traumatizing trust me. The best thing to do is go their separate ways and have the kids gain a new sense of normalcy which they will not get by the roommate thing.


If she is already seeing someone and isn't divorced, I hope he gets full custody.


Oh I am divorced and we lived together for maybe 4 mths after making the decision and it was total hell|||I have family members who do this and I am telling you that in the long run, it is not worth it.





They cannot stand eachother so they constantly fight. They are teaching the kids to be hateful to one another and that it is okay to have no peace in your own home.





To divorce and seperate would be better unless they can get along without shouting at one another. I dont see how this is possible though.|||THAT situation IS NOT GOING TO WORK!! Unfortunatly they will find that out later. And as far as the kids go??? That situation will be even worse for them????? Why people think their doing this to protect the lids is BEYOND ME????? Their doing their kids more harm then anything!!!!!!!!!! Let the kids see that your not getting along. And that you've made a decision to move on with your life. Your not being honest with the children. This is only going to cause them relationship problems later in life!! Believe me%26gt;%26gt;I've seen it before. Your kids won't die or become mentally disabled because your marriage didn't work and you decided to move on. Their not only doing a real diservice to themeslves; Their also doing it to the kids!!!!!! AND THAT IS SAD!!!|||my sister did for a few weeks but it never worked for them he got nasty and she had to move out! not saying that will happen to your friend but you cant move on when your living with your past! if you ask me its best the the children get used to the fact that mummy and daddy are living different lives they will soon get used to it kids are much cleaver then we all give them credit for if there parents are unhappy they will see that!|||I've seen that happen but it was because they were waiting to sell the house and it took five years, and they both had live in friends|||Why in the world would two people do that? That sends a real stupid message to the kids.

How to stop a divorce thats already started?

I live in Florida and filled for divorce back in April. We have mediation scheduled for the end of September. The problem is I don't want this divorce to go through, and I know my husband would be willing to work on our marriage. Is there any way to stop this divorce from happening. Or is it to late.|||A lawyer can file papers for you that will put the divorce on hold for awhile.


It will cost about 800 dollars. Talk to a divorce lawyer. He can withdraw your petition.|||First, contact your attorney and ask to put this divorce on hold; second speak with your husband to confirm that he wants to work on the marriage; third, determine what you need to do such as a couple's marriage retreat, counseling, etc. You as the client can always stop the divorce proceedings if you choose to but be prepared to lose the money you have paid for filing fees and most of your attorney fees. If you put things on hold and attempt a reconciliation then you won't have to pay new filing fees if things don't work out and you want to go forward with the divorce at a later time. good luck.|||Margo Can Stop Your Divorce Even When Your


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think about it carefully. there is some great advice at


http://www.how-get-ex-back.blogspot.com/|||You need to contact an attorney that specializes in divorce. You can move on from there. Good luck!

Can a true follower of Christ divorce someone or marry someone who is divorced, aside from adultery?

Supposedly, 80% of Americans are Christians and the divorce rate is about 51%. The Bible also says that anyone who obtains a divorce and marries another is an adulterer. A majority of divorces are a result of irreconcilable differences, not adultery, which implies that Christians may be practicing a selective morality. How many Christians are working on a second, third or fourth marriage? Do most even take their wedding vows seriously? Unless, of course, two people of the same sex want to marry. It then becomes a VERY serious matter.|||God dosnt want couples to get divorced.and Christians are suppose to be following his word on that, how ever people sin and it happens, but we are all suppose to aim to live the most sin free lives we can..|||Supposedly means that the statistics are skewed. For one thing, if you add up all the marriages in the US and add up all the divorces in the US every year, then you do not get an accurate number. Like you say, some people are on their 2nd, 3rd and 4th marriage. Then you compare it to how many are Christians and you don't get a good average.





Btw, I'm in my one and only marriage ... we've been together since 1989. Wow, just realized that's 20 years this April, woohooo! lol





People should take more time in deciding marriage, it's a lifetime commitment.|||You are so right, sad isn't it. Can't say 80% are true believers though, we just happen to be a nation where the majority seems to believe in God or a higher power.|||Christ was never married and wasn't very pro family, having denied his own mother and brothers and sisters in Matthew 12:46-50.


So I assume anyone that marries isn't very Christ like.|||Two options. Either you think that:





a) All Christians are perfect and do not sin.


b) All Christians are not perfect.





(BTW, choice A contradicts the Bible)|||Since when has any Christian been a true follower of Christ?|||No, and if you do Jesus will roast you like a weenie.


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How long before the divorce is final in California?

Oh of my coworkers has been going through a uncontested, default divorce for the last 19 months. He has no kids, just a deadbeat, worthless piece of crap for a wife.





He's going to court March 24. How long will it take until the divorce is final after the court date? We are tired of listening to his complaining and nobody has any idea why such a simple divorce has taken nearly two years.|||Chances are that he hasn't exactly bee 100% truthful with you about all the facts. So it's antibody's guess exactly where the divorce really is.


be prepared to hear more about it for awhile.


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What does a religious annulment do to a divorce decree?

My ex-wife called me last night and is planning to remarry. She needs an annulment paper signed in order for her to join the Catholic church and remarry a guy from that church. We were divorced about 10 years ago. What will this annulment do to our divorce decree that we signed in 1999? I have finally gotten finished with child support payments as all the kids are now over 18, but what about the other parts of the decree? Will they still be valid?|||That depends.





The old fashioned annulment made the children illegitimate in the eyes of the church. Essentially an annulment means the marriage never existed, so the kids were essentially made outside of wedlock.(Anyone who disagrees should ask a priest about this.)





If you are not Catholic yourself, or are not devout, then I am guessing this won't bother you. But some people go for the legal divorce, and not the religious one on those grounds.





One is legal (divorce) and the other religious.The annulment will not change any aspect of the legal divorce.|||Nothing changes with the decree. It will still stand.





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the annulment will make the children illegitimate in the eyes of the church, but not the eyes of the law or the parents.|||Its a Catholic thingy. The decree still stands

How can I obtain a divorce from a legal separation in ct?

I have a legal separation from the courts, but now want a final divorce. What do I need to do?|||Now that you have a legal separation, you need to commence an formal action for divorce. This is done by filing (with the court) and serving a Summons and complaint for divorce. Your grounds will be that you were living separate and apart pursuant to a judgment of separation. The relief, in terms of the prioperty settlement will be based upon the Judgment of separation.





The problem here is that once the separation was obtained, why wasn't a divorce obtained at the same time? Now you have to start a second action to finish the job. However, as the separation agreement is in force, it is likely that your spouse will not object and the divorce can go through on default with the separation agreement being enforced.|||I would assume that you would have to file a separate divorce action against your spouse.